The Together & Better Coaching program for Heartbreak & Emotional Loss is the most comprehensive and most effective program to get over your emotional trauma, and to move past any repetitive destructive patterns in relationships.
Getting over a breakup & bringing about an emotional change is a process that requires unlearning certain behaviours and learning new ones. I use a combination of the most effective learning techniques – including One-on-One Sessions, Group Sessions, Webinars & Retreats – to help you break the cycle of unfulfilling relationships.
For your reference here is the Learning Pyramid as outlined by the National Training Laboratory.
The different Paradigms to Self Improvement
There are many approaches to self improvement. Here I have listed two of the most common approaches publicized over the past twenty years, followed by my personal approach that I advocate in my retreats.
The personality Paradigm
This approach basically guides you towards creating a great personality in order to achieve your goals. However, the two main shortcomings of this approach are the facts that your personality is highly dependent on the genetics. And secondly your personality creates a higher focus on the outside rather than the inside.
The character paradigm
The character Paradigm was an improvement over the personality approach, because it focused more on development of the character rather than the personality. However the flaw that I have noticed in this approach is that a big part of the person’s character is determined by their upbringing.
The formation of your personality & your character is very highly influenced by nature & nurture respectively. During adulthood, when you are actually in a position to take control of your actions a large part of your personality & character are already defined. You can only put on minor refinements to these two attributes.
The Choices paradigm – Actions and people
In order to come up with a more effective approach to self improvement, I had to shift my focus away from the previously established methods & start with a clean slate.
The personality paradigm focuses on image management. The character paradigm is built on decisions. However, we are not an image, & life is not a collection of decisions. Life is a sequence of choices. At any given time, we have the choices to stick with or to change our decisions.
This approach – The Choices Paradigm – is the foundation for my coaching programs & retreats.